“You cannot go into the room where someone is dying
and not pay attention. Everything is
pulling you into the moment.” ~~ Frank Ostaseki
In 1987, Frank Ostaseski helped form the Zen Hospice Project, the first Buddhist hospice in America. In 2004, he created Metta Institute to broaden this work and seed the culture with innovative approaches to end-of-life care that reaffirm the spiritual dimensions of dying.
I love listening to his 3 tape series entitled, Being a Compassionate Companion. It has so much heart and he conveys the teachings of the Buddhist Path and the hospice experience in such a natural, gentle way.
In these three tapes, Frank gives guidance and explains these important teachings for cultivating a compassionate presence at the bedside:
- Bring your whole self to the experience.
- Don’t wait.
- Find a place of rest in the middle of things.
- Cultivate “don’t know” mind.
Over the next few days, I will be sharing more about each of these precepts (teachings).
I hope that I can share what I learned from Frank and from working at hospice. Most importantly, I hope that when you encounter another person, you learn to take a deep breath and settle in and truly open yourself to the experience.
More to come.
- Hospice Refresher Course (griefresourcecenter.wordpress.com)
- Final Gifts: Must Have Book When Someone You Love is Dying (namasteconsultinginc.com)