“Death touches the lives of young people far more frequently than most of us would like to admit. Robert Kastenbaum has called childhood “the kingdom where nobody dies,” but even in the lives of the most protected child, death is a dark intruder in that “perfect” fantasy world.”
~~Robert G. Stevenson
We are truly naive and almost cruel when we believe that kids don’t know anything about loss or that they don’t grieve. So many kids have later resentments and feel disconnected and not bonded to their families when they are shut out from grief.
Sometimes I think that talking to kids about death is like talking to them about sex. We’re afraid, embarrassed, uncomfortable. We forget though that we will get over embarrassment, people don’t always get over secrecy, lies, and half-truths. If we try to shield our kids from too much or the wrong things, we truly hurt them with our love.