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“Letting go of fixation is effectively a process of learning to be free, because every time we let go of something, we become free of it. Whatever we fixate upon limits us because fixation makes us dependent upon something other than ourselves. Each time we let go of something, we experience another level of freedom.” ~~ Traleg Kyabgon Rinpoche, “Letting Go of Spiritual Experience”
There is so much to let go of in life. . . and yet, people will tell you to let go of the person who you love that has died.
I don’t think so?
Let go of your need to control.
Let go of needing to rush around.
Let go of those things that you can’t fix like other people’s reactions.
Let go of the muscle tension you are holding on to.
Keep gentle hold of that which is sacred and tender…
Continue your bonds of love and closeness with that person who is gone.
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A post of mine this morning, great minds are hard to find, oh no great minds think alike, or do they?
From Buddha’s Brain by Rick Hanson
Let experiences flow through awareness without identifying with them.
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If this stance were verbalized, it would sound something like this: Seeing is happening.
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There is sensation. Thoughts arise. A sense of self emerges.
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Move, plan, feel, and talk with as little presumption of self as possible.
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Please verbalize this along with riding the breathing track when thoughts and triggers appear
More Rick Hanson
Regard “I,” “me,” “mine,” and other forms of self as just more mind-objects—thoughts like any other.
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Remind yourself: I am not thoughts. I am not these thoughts of “I.”
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Don’t identify with the self! Don’t use self words (“I,” “me,” “myself,” and “mine”) any more than necessary.
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Try to get through a specific period of time, such as an hour at work, without using them at all.
It is very hard to let go of someone who has died. Perhaps we let go of the pain and continue to love the person. I like your site, btw.
Thanks Diane. Totally on the mark… NO one should ever ask you to let go of the person you have loved and who has helped to create the miraculous person that you are…. we can work on being present to our pain, acknowledging it, and yes, releasing it if it doesn’t serve our greater good.
Thanks for the sweet comment. I am glad that this blog is reaching people who need/want to hear its message. Namaste!
Love this! Thank you
While being a caregiver it took me years to learn some of these but I never mastered them…it is a continual process but even starting the journey lessens the load.
I think you said something REALLY important… I don’t think there is an mastery of our grief or the skills to deal with it, or our letting go, etc.
I think too often we want to get to some end goal when really it’s about being in the moment with what is… in this moment, can I let go?
I find that the minute I start thinking about much longer than right now, I get myself into trouble. ANd the nice thing is that when this “right now” is over, there is another on the way.
This is also why I like the Buddhist or mindfulness perspective on being with dying and grieving… it’s not about getting to some perfect state or place but in a moment-to-moment being with… we strive to be compassionate as we take this breath and let it go. There’s no guarantee that we’ll be perfect and we’re not looking for it either.
Thanks for sharing your experience!
Peace, Jen